Dating is not a game.

As Christian my whole perspective on dating has changed. When i was of the world i use to look at it as a game. My whole reason for dating was totally out of proportion. Have you ever thought about why we should date or why god gave us this freedom. i remember when i would look at a girl like she was there for the fun. I would base the relationship solely on a physical relationship. I would say to myself are they hot, would my friends approve and if i started dating her and didn’t like her would it be that bad just to dump her. I would think that if i date her am i going to benefit? Well let me tell you my eyes have been opened.

Girls arnt just property or things that you should take advantage of. Joey and i have talked about this a lot lately. In his blog He say that unsaved people look at dating as a social exploration. They look at dating like it is not a big deal. Well for one time in your life you need to ask yourself “WHY DATE?”

• Can you see yourself with this person for the rest of your life.
• Is this what god wants, meaning did you ask god first?
• are both of you will to change certain things to make it work.
• What besides look attract you to that person?
• Could you start a family together?

No matter what you do you need to pray to god and get into your word. One God is the one that is giving you the chance to be with this person so you need to give god the final say. And how you do that is by reading your word to see if your relationship coincides with gods word. If god says yes and it is biblical then you should be in the safe zone. “Now do not get me wrong” you will try this and you might do all the right things, but that does not mean that because you did it that way that person will be the one. God will put things in your life and take them away. He will test and reward you. As long as you stay faithful to god, god will stay faithful to you.

Now let my take this to a different level. let me ask you this. Are you a person that is a afraid to date or commit because you are tired of getting hurt. Well something that i have realized is that if you do what god says he will take that pain from you. Now you may think that i am saying that dating as a Christian is full proof and you will never get hurt, and that is no the truth. No matter what you will always have a chance of getting hurt. But if you put god first when it comes to that point of a breakup or a lose god will heal you.

Now some people would even say that if you cant get married then don’t date. Well yes and no. The bright side of this idea is that you will lessen the chance of getting emotionally torn or hurt. And that is good because that can really change a person if they cant handle being hurt that way. But on another note i am a firm believer that you learn from your mistakes. Now i do pray sometimes that i wish i could have done thing differently in the pas with my relationships. The more i think about it though, i don’t see it that way. Remember that god puts things in your life for a reason. So if relationship does not work out look at it as a learning experience.

Now dating is a serious thing to think about. But you need to realize that god might want you to do something else first. Like a mission trip or bible college or go be an evangelist for a few years. So god might now allow you to be in a relationship until you do what he wants you to do. Or it could be opposite, because you are thinking of a relationship so much that you forget what you are called to do. Maybe god wants you t do something so that you can find the one you are supposed to be with. Joey brings up a very good point. WE alway think of a perfect person. “The One” as some of you put it. Well you need to get past yourself and realize that god is the only perfect one. No one on this earth is perfect. So once you realize that then you need to think about finding someone that can fulfill the important things of life.

• Are they a man or women of god.
• Are both of you willing to change to make it work.
• While dating will you stay faithful.
• Can both of you always put god first.

So Before you date you need to pray and ask yourself are you ready, or are you still playing games? Well i pray for those of you who are single as well as myself that we stay faithful and that god will do great works in our life.

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God bless and stay faithfull! Remember, God is good all the time!